If an individual repeatedly drinks more than they intend or want to, if they get into trouble, or if they have memory lapses when they drink, they may be an alcoholic.
If they want to control their drinking but can’t, then alcoholism is a definite possibility.
AA is set up to help alcoholics who have a desire to stop drinking. If an individual’s drinking is causing you problems, or you have issues with an individual who drinks, then you can only suggest they approach A.A. as above. If you are seeking help on how you deal with their drinking, then you should contact Al-Anon www.al-anon.org.nz. Al-Anon Family Groups consist of relatives and friends of alcoholics who, by banding together, can better solve their common problem.